Tuesday, June 10, 2008

The beast that is my mother!

I posted this earlier on Yahoo! Answers!

Should I disassociate myself from my mother?

When I was pregnant with my second child, I was living with my mother in law. My parents were having some trouble paying their bills, and wanted to get government assistance with their utilities. So, my mother asked me if she could say that my son and I live with her. So that her income would be for more people, making her eligible for more money.

During that time, I was looking for an apartment, to move out of my MIL's house. So, I told her that she couldn't use our information. She proceeded to call me selfish and self centered, and all of this other jazz. I stopped talking to her, because I didn't want the extra stress with my pregnancy. Two weeks later, her mother died, and we started talking again.

Three months after I had the baby, I got an apartment, and moved. She saw my place, loved it, and decided to move into an apartment in the same neighborhood. Right around the corner!

Three months ago, the kids started going to daycare. I asked her, if she wouldn’t mind taking me and the kids up to the daycare every morning, and I would give her money for gas. It worked fine, for the first month. But, after that, she started making me late in the morning. I would call heart 7:45 to get me at 8, and she wouldn’t show until 8:15. This makes a huge difference, since I am catching the bus to work from the daycare. This past week, I started calling her earlier in the morning, and telling her that I had to leave earlier. So I was on time.

I just got paid on Friday, but I am running behind on my bills. So, I told her that I wouldn’t be able to give her money this week. I told her this on Saturday. She came over to my house on Sunday, with my brother to take the kids to the playground. I called her yesterday morning, to take me up to the daycare, and she doesn’t even answer the phone. She lets my dad, who almost never answers the phone pick it up.

She has him tell me at 7:45 in the morning that she’s not going to give me a ride. That leaves me no time to get to work on time. Seeing as they already issued a warning my way about lateness, I called out.

I’m not upset about the fact that she decided not to take me to work. I’m upset about the fact that she treated me like so random person and couldn’t tell me herself the day before. I know that she knew that she wasn’t going to give me a ride. She wasn’t even going to call me that morning. Am I wrong to be mad?

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